Proverb & John

我兒、你若領受我的言語、存記我的命令、
側耳聽智慧、專心求聰明．
呼求明哲、揚聲求聰明、
尋找他如尋找銀子、搜求他如搜求隱藏的珍寶、
你就明白敬畏耶和華、得以認識　神。
 因為、耶和華賜人智慧．知識和聰明都由他口而出．
他給正直人存留真智慧、給行為純正的人作盾牌．
為要保守公平人的路、護庇虔敬人的道．
你也必明白仁義、公平、正直、一切的善道。
智慧必入你心．你的靈要以知識為美．
 謀略必護衛你．聰明必保守你．
要救你脫離惡道〔惡道或作惡人的道〕、脫離說乖謬話的人。
那等人捨棄正直的路、行走黑暗的道、
歡喜作惡、喜愛惡人的乖僻．
在他們的道中彎曲、在他們的路上偏僻。

Proverb 3:21

我兒、要謹守真智慧和謀略．不可使他離開你的眼目．

Proverb 10
義人的口教養多人．愚昧人因無知而死亡。

義人的嘴、能令人喜悅．惡人的口、說乖謬的話。
Proverb 18

愚昧人的口、自取敗壞．他的嘴、是他生命的網羅。

敗壞之先、人心驕傲．尊榮以前、必有謙卑。

未曾聽完先回答的、便是他的愚昧、和羞辱。

人有疾病、心能忍耐．心靈憂傷、誰能承當呢。

聰明人的心得知識．智慧人的耳求知識。

箴言21：4 殷勤籌劃的、足致豐裕．行事急躁的、都必缺乏。


John 10

從門進去的、纔是羊的牧人。

看門的就給他開門．羊也聽他的聲音．他按著名叫自己的羊、把羊領出來。

既放出自己的羊來、就在前頭走、羊也跟著他、因為認得他的聲音。

我是好牧人．我認識我的羊、我的羊也認識我。

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Controlling the Uncontrollables

Adults with relatively high cognitive ability seem at risk for developing symptoms of depression (around 60% chance), possibly because they derive their expectations for themselves based on their intellectual ability rather than overall ability, they are more aware of expectations of the outside world and their inability to meet those.  If they are raised in a negative environment, there are the possibilities of deep-seated anger against themselves (introvert) or against the society (extrovert) depends on the Aspies' inborn personality.  The depression is caused by self-destructive and punishment mechanism that runs automatically caused by faulty value system learnt from negative upbringing.  Human behaviour is influenced by 20%  from consciousness and 80% runs automatically without going through our consciousness.

Uncontrollable circumstances weakens them, such as financial or relational limitations, and onset the anxiety and depression because they are attempting to control the uncontrollables in life.

『人活著不是單靠食物、乃是靠　神口裡所出的一切話。』路加福音 4 : 4

From the Purpose Driven Life:

"God loves to use weak people...
Usually we deny our weaknesses, defend them, excuse them, hide them, and resent them.  This prevents God from using them the way he desires.

God has a different perspective on your weaknesses.  He says, "My thoughts and my ways are higher than yours", so he often acts in ways that are the exact opposite of what we expect.  We think that God only wants to use our strengths, but he also wants to use our weaknesses for his glory.

The bible says, "God purposely chose... what the world considers weak in order to shame the powerful."  Your weaknesses are not an accident.  God deliberately allowed them in your life for the purpose of demonstrating his power through you....

God is never limited by our limitations.  The Bible says, "We are like clay jars in which this treasure is stored.  The real power comes from God and not from us."

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「弟兄們哪、可見你們蒙召的、按著肉體有智慧的不多、有能力的不多、有尊貴的也不多．神卻揀選了世上愚拙的、叫有智慧的羞愧．又揀選了世上軟弱的、叫那強壯的羞愧．神也揀選了世上卑賤的、被人厭惡的、以及那無有的、為要廢掉那有的．使一切有血氣的、在　神面前一個也不能自誇。但你們得在基督耶穌裡、是本乎　神、　神又使他成為我們的智慧、公義、聖潔、救贖．」哥林多前書 1: 26-30

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The Ultimate Identity Crisis

In this world, your identity is based on who you are, who you know well, how much money you earn, where did you go, your education and your occupation.  So if a person has been unemployed chronically, there is high risk of going through an ultimate identity crisis.  Identity crisis is a psychological crisis.

For Aspies, self image is largely dependent on their job, what do they do for a living, the money they earn and currently had which means that if they are unemployed for a long period of time, their whole life has been collapsed.  However, "God is far more interested in what you are than what you do.  Remember, you will take your character (fruit of of the Holy Spirit) into eternity, but not your career." (The Purpose Driven Life)

It is natural for the church to assume during unemployment they have lots of free time and therefore can help to coach the children on English to serve the church and community.  But in fact, this is a wrong assumption because with them going through identity crisis and depression, all energy for life has been drained, even a very small load on the Aspie, they do not feel motivated to do, although the load is light but it is like a straw that breaks the camel’s back.

Joshua Gordon Lee wrote in his book, during the worst time of his life he frequently drives an hour to the desert to move by hand big and heavy rocks from one place to another because moving rocks give him the feeling of sturdy, in control and solid that badly needs in the time of difficulties.  Because of their limited interest on most aspects of life, God has always used the career downtimes as a way to push them to expand oneself.

Reading “Seven Days of Faith” which details out how Christian can achieve spiritual growth through daily activities.  God want to mode us into the way He want it through our traumatic experience, daily activities.  In fact, we grow more in our traumatic experience than having an easy and happy life.
A better way to restore our identity during crisis is to express love.  God values and keep records of our good work to express love and this goes to eternity.  Simple things like decorating the church or our home such that others can feel more comfortable and can enjoy their lives better are loving others and serving God.  Our identity should be our effort in loving God and others and our thoughts.  Identity for a Christian is what and how to love.

Just like Moses and Joseph went through a lot of traumatic experience such that they both developed godly character of humble and meek in order to become a great leader without being arrogant.  The plan of God for their life is to become a leader the way God want them to be.  True spiritual maturity is measured by faith developed through true intimacy with God.  Enoch has not done much in serving the Lord in his life besides raising his own family but he walked closely with God for 300 hundred years.
You are the one who is to choose the meaning of career.  Career for me as it turns out to be opportunity to grow and refine my strategy to handle adversity.

The Purpose Driven Life:
"If you're going to be a servant, you must settle your identity in Christ.  Only secure people can serve.  Insecure people are always worrying about how they appear to others.  They fear exposue of their weaknesses and hide beneath layers of  protective pride and pretensions.  The more insecure you are, the more you will want people to serve you, and the more you will need their approval.

Henri Nouwen said, "In order to be of service to others we have to die to them; that is, we have to give up measuring our meaning and value with the yardstick of others.... thus we become free to be compassionate."  When you base your worth and identity on your relationship to Christ, you are freed from the expectations of others, and that allows you to really serve them best."

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金燈臺

In church, Aspies naturally serve as a lampstand of pure gold because one can see the darkest corner that other people cannot see because of their attention-to-detail autistic trait, can think out of box and uniqueness.  That is why Aspies can so easily see the bad behavior of relationship predators.  Some of the bad behavior of relationship predators were on the entrance of the church and inside the church with a big crowd but surprisingly none of the church go-ers can see what’s happening because the bad behaviours are out of the expectation of normal people.

金燈臺是什麼？金燈臺就是一個地方、一個地方上的召會，憑著父神的生命和性情，在基督的復活裏受捶打而成形，並被聖靈充滿浸潤而照耀。這就是每一個主所呼召的人，今天該活在其中的異象、該與眾聖徒在一裏彰顯出來的實際。
神聖的生命必須具體成形在我們人性的生活裏，成形的是我們的人性生活，但受捶打的乃是永遠的生命。受捶打的不是我們墮落的魂生命，我們的魂生命必須為主捨棄、喪失。當神聖的捶打臨到我們時，我們不該在魂生命裏來領受、忍受，如果我們是憑自己的魂生命接受捶打，我們所得著的不過就僅剩下「受苦」而已。我們該天天靠著十字架，看自己的魂生命如同已死，當神聖的捶打臨到我們時，我們該在永遠的生命裏來受捶打，這樣，捶打就不僅是受苦，更是帶來神聖生命的長成。
神的建造不同於巴比倫的建造。巴比倫乃是把我們的魂生命燒成磚，與其他的磚頭用灰泥作漆連結起來；但神聖的生命自始至終都是「一」，就如金燈臺是由「一塊精金」捶打出來的，捶打出許多分枝，但不是分開捶打後再結合，乃是從一塊精金捶打成形。我們在自己的魂生命裏都是分開的、獨立的個體，但我們蒙召進入永遠生命裏的時候，我們各人卻都是一個身體上的肢體，共享一個生命、共同有份同一個生命。從這個角度來說，基督今天仍在受苦，復活的基督仍在受苦、受逼迫。基督雖然從死裏復活了，但神聖建造的工作才剛剛開始，當祂在掃羅逼迫基督徒的路上向他顯現時，祂對掃羅說：「你為什麼逼迫我？」掃羅並不是直接逼迫在地上的拿撒勒人耶穌，而是在耶穌死而復活之後，逼迫那些有份於這永遠生命的人們，但在基督的感覺裏，這就是逼迫祂，祂雖不必再為贖罪的工作受苦，但祂仍然在為神聖建造、生命成形的工作受苦。

引用來源： 金燈臺 | 水深之處福音網站 http://www.luke54.org/view/25/2986.html#ixzz2OGrZmuVn 

From Kam Leung:

「凡事受了責備，就被光顯明出來，因為一切能顯明的就是光。」以弗所書5：13 保羅指出光的效能就是在所到之處，一切黑暗與污垢全都要顯露出來。正如對以弗所的信徒勉勵，生活樣式要展現像光明之子，光來到就是照耀全地。當聖靈在我們所思所行，甚至所講的事上都會如光的照明，正當與邪惡；真誠與虛假；公義與私慾；愛心與嫉妒，這一切都無從隱藏。我們就更當行事為人靠著那加給我力量的，凡事都能作。Amen！

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Stand up for Yourself during the Presence of Relationship Predators with Anti-Social Personality Disorder

Relationship Predators with anti-social personality disorder is a natural threat for women with Autism because predators always look for an easy target.  Predators will generally have a history of conduct disorder as a teenager and extremely keen on observation, which means they can easily spot out the ASD traits in a large group of people.

Predators usually target Aspies and try to take advantage of their low self-esteem, deep insecurities, 內弱 and weak in social support.   Anti-social predators will make use of peer pressure, misunderstanding, false rumors to put down their targets, so as to force their target to be submissive to their predators because of peer pressure or feeling intimidated by the threat created by the predators.

Therefore, it is important for Aspies to stay with a healthy and positive peer group and boldly stand up for themselves during this kind of situation.  If the predators spread false rumors about you and in order to threaten to ruin your reputation, you need to have faith in yourself that you've done nothing wrong to trigger the misunderstanding from your peer group, clarify with the trusted group members on appropriate situations and it is solely the predators' trick trying to threaten you.


From Kam Leung:

「懼怕人的，陷入網羅；惟有倚靠耶和華的必得安穩。」箴言29：25
"箴言書吸引之處在於比世人的格言還要有智慧。此經節所指，當一個人因怯懼人的威權恐嚇下，懾於那些仗著勢力欺壓他人，人亦只能墮進所設的網羅裏。當然景況是一種強勢壓制，但物極必反，那張力自然擴展伸延，惡者定必不安；但詩人的智慧就是倚靠上才是真正經歷安穩，裏面是滿有自由與平安。我們相信相信 神是智慧的啟迪，只有更安穩在祂的懷抱中得享甘甜。同路人，盡心的享受這大愛！"


Recognisable traits of predators:


強詞奪理、顛倒是非、企圖擾亂羣眾的視聽，嚴重違反弟兄姊妹之間的誠信, 令受害人身心受煎熬及事件對她有負面影響

「他口中的言語、起頭是愚昧．他話的末尾、是奸惡的狂妄。」傳道書 10 : 9

「義人的嘴、能令人喜悅．惡人的口、說乖謬的話。」Proverb 10

「鴕鳥的翅膀歡然搧展、豈是顯慈愛的翎毛和羽毛麼。因他把蛋留在地上、在塵土中、使得溫暖．卻想不到被腳踹碎、或被野獸踐踏。他忍心待雛、似乎不是自己的．雖然徒受勞苦、也不為雛懼怕．因為　神使他沒有智慧、也未將悟性賜給他。他幾時挺身展開翅膀、就嗤笑馬和騎馬的人。」約伯記 39 : 13-17


Despite that the target feels quite angry over the predators annoying her, the law gives us guideline on whether the evil predators deserve punishment or not.

The law for prosecuting the predators depends on their conditions:

Not guilty by reason of insanity.  (因精神錯亂而無罪)
When  an act is done by a feeble-minded person, the punishment may be reduced.  (減責神志失常)

(The purpose driven life)
"Jesus gave the church a simple three-step process: "If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him -- work it out between the two of you.  If he listens, you've made a friend.  If he won't listen, take one or two others along so that the presence of witnesses will keep things honest, and try again.  If he still won't listen, tell the church."

What should you do if the person is still stuck in stubbornness? Jesus says to take it to the church.  If the person still refuses to listen after that, you should treat that person like an unbeliever.

The bible gives pastors very specific instructions on how to deal with relationship predators.  Predators should be removed from church if they ignore two warnings."

Titus 3:2
Warn a divisive person once, and then warn him a second time. After that, have nothing to do with him.
You may be sure that such a man is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned.


提多書 3 :10-11
分門結黨的人、警戒過一兩次、就要棄絕他．因為知道這等人已經背道、犯了罪、自己明知不是、還是去作。

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Christian behavior therapy based teaching from Joyce Meyer TV

God can make good use of a disability and a bad situation.  It is beneficial for Aspies to be schooled with positive Christian teachings.  Helping a child to understand what to do, in concrete ways, demonstrating actions that are giving and positive and helpful to others, can counterbalance this tendency toward negative thinking.
Teaching that helps me to clear mind-blindness and correct some of my behavior:

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• The love of God for us is not based on our performance.
• We cannot change other people, only God can change people.
• Don’t let anybody make you think that you’re worthless because they have mistreated you.  Don’t judge your worth and value by how someone else treat you.  Judge your worth and value by what God has to say about you in His word.
• What an honour to be able to say: No matter what kind of problems I have in my life.  I get to trust God.  God loves me and I don’t have to live in fear.  God is on my side and I get to give God my problems.  Cast all my cares.  Go on to enjoy my life while God works on my situation.
• On handling the pain of bullying:
• I may not have been a perfect classmate but there is NO reason for them to treat me like that.  I am not going to let it destroy the rest of my life.  I am letting go of what life’s behind and pressing on good things ahead.
• There is a wound in your soul that only God can heal.  Go to God everyday.  God, here I’m.  I can’t do this on my own.  But you promised you’ll give me beautiful ashes.  Trust God to heal my damaged emotions and give me the oil of joy for the mourning.
• World told us everything that we are not sufficient.  But Jesus promised us a rich and fulfilling life.  Why we still feel inadequate?  We used up all our effort, power to gain more, how come still not sufficient?  Do we still hold on tight on certain things?
• It just doesn’t matter where you’re at right now.  If you’ll let God in, He will bring total complete restoration in your life.  It does not matter what have been done to you in the past if you just decide to have a good attitude and start to be a blessing to somebody else and let God in.  God will fix it all.
• Don’t give up.  I am not going out of the game like a loser.  I am going to win.
• God will teach you wherever you’re at.  Some important lessons God needs to teach you Himself. 
• God is committed to work with you in the process if you don’t just give up.
• It’s not the devil’s job to tell you what’s wrong with you.  The devil condemns and accuses you.  God convicts you and lift you up.  As soon as the devil tells you what you’re not.  God changes you.  He tells you that you can make it.
• When on low self-esteem: What do you think you are to despise on God’s creation!
• We say too much.  We tried to convince everyone what is wrong with them, while we need to let God do the convincing.  Maybe we say too much a lot of the time.
• Angry at someone is like us drinking poison while thinking that person will die because of the poison you drink.

Overcoming Insecurity

When righteousness is missing - an understanding of who you’re in Christ is missing, symptoms:
·       Lack of Joy
·       Lack of confidence (means you’ve a short circuit somewhere inside)
·       Lack of boldness in prayer
·       Full of fear


In God’s economy you get not what you deserve, you get what Jesus deserve.
So we may receive mercy for our failures.
David can defeat the Giant because he is not looking at himself, he is looking at God and have confidence and boldness in God.
If we don’t know who we’re in Christ, we tend to compare ourselves with others.  E.g. pray 4 hours a day same as super Christian.
The moment you start to feel frustrated, you feel condemned that you’re not able to do it.  It should be enjoyable and not something that someone make us to do.  Whatever we do for God, we should not be a struggle.
Stop comparing yourself with other people.  We’re all different and it’s ok.
So you’re a little bit strange, it’s ok.  So I’m a little bit strange, that is ok.  I’m ok and I’m on my way.  We got to let God change us.
If we don’t know who we’re in Christ.  We’re so full of fear that we’re afraid to step out and try new things.  They are easily hurt and offended.  They talk negatively about themselves.  They are very touchy.  They need an excessive amount of encouragement.
From Joyce Meyer, “God knows your heart.  He knows your heart.  If you want to do what’s right and you’ve kept pressing on and done everything you can to grow, then God sees your heart.  He is going to help you from where you are to where you want to be or need to be. “

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