Stand up for Yourself during the Presence of Relationship Predators with Anti-Social Personality Disorder

Relationship Predators with anti-social personality disorder is a natural threat for women with Autism because predators always look for an easy target.  Predators will generally have a history of conduct disorder as a teenager and extremely keen on observation, which means they can easily spot out the ASD traits in a large group of people.

Predators usually target Aspies and try to take advantage of their low self-esteem, deep insecurities, 內弱 and weak in social support.   Anti-social predators will make use of peer pressure, misunderstanding, false rumors to put down their targets, so as to force their target to be submissive to their predators because of peer pressure or feeling intimidated by the threat created by the predators.

Therefore, it is important for Aspies to stay with a healthy and positive peer group and boldly stand up for themselves during this kind of situation.  If the predators spread false rumors about you and in order to threaten to ruin your reputation, you need to have faith in yourself that you've done nothing wrong to trigger the misunderstanding from your peer group, clarify with the trusted group members on appropriate situations and it is solely the predators' trick trying to threaten you.


From Kam Leung:

「懼怕人的，陷入網羅；惟有倚靠耶和華的必得安穩。」箴言29：25
"箴言書吸引之處在於比世人的格言還要有智慧。此經節所指，當一個人因怯懼人的威權恐嚇下，懾於那些仗著勢力欺壓他人，人亦只能墮進所設的網羅裏。當然景況是一種強勢壓制，但物極必反，那張力自然擴展伸延，惡者定必不安；但詩人的智慧就是倚靠上才是真正經歷安穩，裏面是滿有自由與平安。我們相信相信 神是智慧的啟迪，只有更安穩在祂的懷抱中得享甘甜。同路人，盡心的享受這大愛！"


Recognisable traits of predators:


強詞奪理、顛倒是非、企圖擾亂羣眾的視聽，嚴重違反弟兄姊妹之間的誠信, 令受害人身心受煎熬及事件對她有負面影響

「他口中的言語、起頭是愚昧．他話的末尾、是奸惡的狂妄。」傳道書 10 : 9

「義人的嘴、能令人喜悅．惡人的口、說乖謬的話。」Proverb 10

「鴕鳥的翅膀歡然搧展、豈是顯慈愛的翎毛和羽毛麼。因他把蛋留在地上、在塵土中、使得溫暖．卻想不到被腳踹碎、或被野獸踐踏。他忍心待雛、似乎不是自己的．雖然徒受勞苦、也不為雛懼怕．因為　神使他沒有智慧、也未將悟性賜給他。他幾時挺身展開翅膀、就嗤笑馬和騎馬的人。」約伯記 39 : 13-17


Despite that the target feels quite angry over the predators annoying her, the law gives us guideline on whether the evil predators deserve punishment or not.

The law for prosecuting the predators depends on their conditions:

Not guilty by reason of insanity.  (因精神錯亂而無罪)
When  an act is done by a feeble-minded person, the punishment may be reduced.  (減責神志失常)

(The purpose driven life)
"Jesus gave the church a simple three-step process: "If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him -- work it out between the two of you.  If he listens, you've made a friend.  If he won't listen, take one or two others along so that the presence of witnesses will keep things honest, and try again.  If he still won't listen, tell the church."

What should you do if the person is still stuck in stubbornness? Jesus says to take it to the church.  If the person still refuses to listen after that, you should treat that person like an unbeliever.

The bible gives pastors very specific instructions on how to deal with relationship predators.  Predators should be removed from church if they ignore two warnings."

Titus 3:2
Warn a divisive person once, and then warn him a second time. After that, have nothing to do with him.
You may be sure that such a man is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned.


提多書 3 :10-11
分門結黨的人、警戒過一兩次、就要棄絕他．因為知道這等人已經背道、犯了罪、自己明知不是、還是去作。