Differences between Self-centre and Selfish, Mind-blindness

For normal people, self-centred and selfish means almost the same character.  But for Aspies, there is difference:

• Self-centre means self-focus and self-conscious, lack of empathy in a sense that ignore other people's feeling or perspective.  Putting one's own opinion and judgment higher priority/authority than other people, which may/may not resulting in the advantage of oneself.
• Selfish means intentionally taking advantage of others for your own good.

No two clients with Asperger’s syndrome exhibit the same cluster of traits, nor does any one client exhibit them all. However, there is one element that I recognize as pervasively diminished in all Asperger’s clients. This element is called “theory of mind.”

What is theory of mind? It is a person’s ability to imagine the interior life of another person. This includes understanding why someone else does something, how someone might feel in a certain circumstance, what might be important to that person: in short, it is the ability to put oneself in the mind of another person and see the world from that person’s point of view. Theory of mind means being able to create a theory about the way another person’s mind works.

Theory of mind provides the basis for empathy because if you can walk in someone else’s shoes, you also become capable, by extension, of feeling any pain or delight that person experiences. You understand motivation. You catch a glimpse of fears and dislikes. You get to know the other person from the inside out.

According to autism specialist Simon Baron-Cohen, individuals with Asperger’s syndrome typically have delayed access or no access to this phenomenon of human communication and share a problem that is called mind-blindness. Since interpersonal communication is approximately 65% nonverbal, you can quickly see that not being able to formulate a theory of mind leaves these individuals at a distinct disadvantage in relationship with others because the behavior of other people does not make sense to them.

For parents, this gap can create difficulties when they treat their son or daughter with Asperger’s with the same set of interpersonal expectations with which they treat their other children and assume intact theory of mind capabilities. This can lead to incorrect understanding of the child’s behavior as being intentionally hurtful, for example, when in fact it was based in lack of awareness.

A common test used with children suspected of being autistic is called the Sally and Anne Test:

Sally has a basket. Anne has a box. Sally has a marble. She puts the marble into her basket. Sally goes out for a walk. Anne takes the marble out of the basket and puts it into the box. Now Sally comes back. She wants to play with her marble. Where will Sally look for the marble?

Most children will answer that Sally will look in her basket, because that’s where she put it and that’s where she expects it to be when she returns from her walk. Baron-Cohen discovered that only 20% of children with autism were able to answer correctly. A full 80% answered that Sally would look in the box, because that is where the marble is.

This test is often used to demonstrate the theory of mind deficits in children with Asperger’s syndrome. They believe Sally will look in the box for her marble because they know that’s where it is. They are unable to put themselves into Sally’s mind in order to understand that from her perspective the marble should be right where she left it: in her basket. Can you imagine how unpredictable and irrational the world must appear to a child whose logic is denied in such a manner? This is the world of a child with Asperger’s syndrome.

I work with children to help them build bridges toward understanding the behavior of others, so that they can come to anticipate that their own logical view of the world may not apply in all circumstances. This is one of the primary goals of therapy with these children. It is an attempt to help them experience the world as a safer place than it appears when their logical perspective is consistently shattered by experiences that do not align with it.

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Why Aspies still better off going to Church?

Despite less than 1% of the Aspie population are Christians and being accepted by fellowship still requires certain threshold of social skills, there are still good reasons for Aspies to attend church.  The reasons are:

• Aspies love clearly layout rules and principal on how to deal with people.  The underlying principal for the sermons are based on love for one another and the people skills are clearly layout.  
• Worship serves the purpose of music therapy to sooth the anxiety and depression.
• The gospel is designed to serve the poor and the weak.  Biblical principal helps to turn around the negative paradigm and life views.
• Aspies dislike uncertainty and have deep sense of insecurity.  Building a strong relationship with God is a certainty and helps to reduce their insecurity by trusting God as a strong foundation for their life.
• Fellowship with Christian can provide honest feedback to help Aspies to pick up the essential social skills and helps to ratify the obsessive and compulsive thoughts and behaviour.  These honest feedback will be hard to come by at work or other social groups.

傳道書 9:15 城中有一個貧窮的智慧人、他用智慧救了那城、卻沒有人記念那窮人． 

有一服務Special Needs的宣教機構比一般教會多收一些IQ 較低, 行為較古怪, 情緒比較大, 咁偉大的神聖任務它承幨了, 反而推走了很多銀行家,專業人士, 不再參加他們的活動, 做好事反而收場充滿壓力, this is a positive thing.  人生裏面很頂天立地,有一些 positive action, 犧牲是值得的, 不過消耗 也很高,沒有人體諒他們.

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Asperger Traits

• IQ much higher than EQ (IQ & EQ differences more than 1.5 standard deviation)
• 2-tiers maturity: Intellectual maturity much more than emotion maturity and social maturity (SQ - social quotient).  Sometimes people cannot notice because intellectual maturity mask emotion and social immaturity.
• Social skills has be taught, they cannot learn naturally.
• In autistic population the deficit is in cognitive empathy (figuring out the mental estate). Due to the starving kid is physically suffering it's easer to generate an emotional response than if the person has is mentally suffering.
• Single skill set with weakness in multi-tasking.
• Low energy level (Range 1-6 with average 3.5).  無助,無力感高.  At energy level 2, people thought they are lazy, but this is not true, it is just because they are born with low energy level.
• Non-verbal learning disability
• Facial recognition response time: a few seconds slower than normal people
• Attention shifting among team of people is much less frequent than normal people
• Taking things and conversation literally

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Dysfunctional Thinkings

Impose your own judgement to override the instructions or judgement of someone with higher authorities

e.g. A summer student were told that the office dress code is shirt and tie.  But the student makes the judgement himself thinking that was not necessary and wear jeans instead to work.  The end result is his losing the job because of his Ego and stubbornness in not listening to others who are more senior or experienced than him.

你要專心仰賴耶和華、不可倚靠自己的聰明．
 在你一切所行的事上、都要認定他、他必指引你的路。
不要自以為有智慧．要敬畏耶和華、遠離惡事．
(箴言 3 : 5-6)

腓立比書 2:3
只要存心謙卑、各人看別人比自己強。

Taking statistics and facts too seriously

Octobertiger: "Forget the statistics. I'm not a number on a chart, and you are not one, too."

Lack of Emotion Wordings during Conversation

One of the therapy session will be practising emotion wordings e.g.
"I feel helpless...because..., so I need to seek help from ..."
"I feel pressured or stressed because..., so I need to take a break"

Emotion transfered through other means than express towards people

Aspies generally expresses emotions through music, writings, arts and nature, instead of express the emotions towards people during socializing.


Too Quick to Jump into Conclusion due to Bottom up Thinking Process

The autistic mind are less flexible and narrower than most people.    The autistic mind is not designed for top down, instead they derive their big picture understanding based on specific examples.  This resulted in, they having a strong tendency to jump into conclusion just because of a few similar incidents they experienced personally.  Also, because of their lack of exposure to people of different mindsets due to their social withdrawal, they don't have a strong feedback mechanism to correct their dyfunctional thinking.

Oversensitive on feeling.


Over Empathizes on Negativity and Personal Experiences

Those have negative upbringing background traits usually can grow out of those traits as they mature.  However, with mind-blindness, Aspies had a hard time detecting the impact of their behavior on others, making maturing out of negative upbringing traits difficult.  The following are some of the negative traits from upbringing:

• Tendency to compare and put down
• Quick to observe and point out other people’s mistakes and thinking doing people a favor
• Teasing people when people make mistake or being dumb
• Self-righteous and critical

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Adversity Strategy

Aspies become excel at their special interest when they drill in the specific interest until it becomes intuition for them.  The special interest is usually something that they can develop within themselves independently without team support.  The interest can be common interest.  What makes the interest special is the intensity in the effort that gets put in.

Successful Examples:

• Clay Marzo (Surfing)

Clay Marzo began competitively surfing and swimming at an early age. When he was 10 years old, he won the 200 meter freestyle event at the annual Hawaii State Swimming Championships.^[7] At age 11, he placed third at the National Scholastic Surfing Association (NSSA) Nationals competition, and signed a pro contract with the Quiksilver team.^[8] When Marzo was 15, he became the first surfer to receive two perfect 10's in NSSA history and won the NSSA National title. In 2005, Marzo became the NSSA Open Men’s National Champion. His other accomplishments include being nominated for Maneuver of the Year at the 2007 Surfer Poll Awards, and Water Man of the Year in 2006.

• Mozart (Music)
• Einstein (Theoretical Physics)

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Fail to Build Meaningful, Load Bearing and Supportive Relationship

Due to social deficits, Aspies are less likely to find and keep meaningful, load bearing and supporting relationship that can accept them as it is, provide feedback to help them to improve their social skills and go extra miles to support them whatever that is needed.  Even if they manage to keep a close friend for a few years due to certain circumstances but there are good chances are their lack of empathy towards others will alienate from the close friends over time when the close friends ran out of patience.  Most of these supportive roles are provided by their parents or close relatives if they are lucky.

They usually has a history of being bullied by their peers at school or work.  Therefore, there are deep-seated hurts by peer group's rejection and misunderstanding.   Ideally, the church could serve as a positive peer group to heal their deep wounds.  Unfortunately, to be accepted by the church fellowship group also requires certain level of social skills and normal behaviour which most Aspies do not have.   As a result, their negative experience accumulated and deepened even so in a church environment because there are the general expectation that the church group will be loving.   In fact, with the high moral expectation from the "Pharisee" type of Christians, Aspies are more likely to be misunderstood, labeled and exposed of their "sins" than normal Christians.  This explains why the Aspies community has less than 1% Christian among highly concentrated Christian countries.   Therefore, it is very important for church leaders to realize that exposing/hinting the rumoured "sins" of Aspies without any solid evidence in the whole church, as an attempt to purified and upgrade their faith, or hinting any negative impression in the congregation will deepen the negative experience of Aspies and eventually caused them to withdraw from church.

Aspies generally are weak in picking up subtle social cues, therefore most of them developed a sixth sense in detecting the atmosphere in the group environment and usually are very accurate.  Any unfriendly atmosphere in a group environment will be interpreted as group rejection.

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Controlling the Uncontrollables

Adults with relatively high cognitive ability seem at risk for developing symptoms of depression (around 60% chance), possibly because they derive their expectations for themselves based on their intellectual ability rather than overall ability, they are more aware of expectations of the outside world and their inability to meet those.  If they are raised in a negative environment, there are the possibilities of deep-seated anger against themselves (introvert) or against the society (extrovert) depends on the Aspies' inborn personality.  The depression is caused by self-destructive and punishment mechanism that runs automatically caused by faulty value system learnt from negative upbringing.  Human behaviour is influenced by 20%  from consciousness and 80% runs automatically without going through our consciousness.

Uncontrollable circumstances weakens them, such as financial or relational limitations, and onset the anxiety and depression because they are attempting to control the uncontrollables in life.

『人活著不是單靠食物、乃是靠　神口裡所出的一切話。』路加福音 4 : 4

From the Purpose Driven Life:

"God loves to use weak people...
Usually we deny our weaknesses, defend them, excuse them, hide them, and resent them.  This prevents God from using them the way he desires.

God has a different perspective on your weaknesses.  He says, "My thoughts and my ways are higher than yours", so he often acts in ways that are the exact opposite of what we expect.  We think that God only wants to use our strengths, but he also wants to use our weaknesses for his glory.

The bible says, "God purposely chose... what the world considers weak in order to shame the powerful."  Your weaknesses are not an accident.  God deliberately allowed them in your life for the purpose of demonstrating his power through you....

God is never limited by our limitations.  The Bible says, "We are like clay jars in which this treasure is stored.  The real power comes from God and not from us."

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「弟兄們哪、可見你們蒙召的、按著肉體有智慧的不多、有能力的不多、有尊貴的也不多．神卻揀選了世上愚拙的、叫有智慧的羞愧．又揀選了世上軟弱的、叫那強壯的羞愧．神也揀選了世上卑賤的、被人厭惡的、以及那無有的、為要廢掉那有的．使一切有血氣的、在　神面前一個也不能自誇。但你們得在基督耶穌裡、是本乎　神、　神又使他成為我們的智慧、公義、聖潔、救贖．」哥林多前書 1: 26-30

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The Ultimate Identity Crisis

In this world, your identity is based on who you are, who you know well, how much money you earn, where did you go, your education and your occupation.  So if a person has been unemployed chronically, there is high risk of going through an ultimate identity crisis.  Identity crisis is a psychological crisis.

For Aspies, self image is largely dependent on their job, what do they do for a living, the money they earn and currently had which means that if they are unemployed for a long period of time, their whole life has been collapsed.  However, "God is far more interested in what you are than what you do.  Remember, you will take your character (fruit of of the Holy Spirit) into eternity, but not your career." (The Purpose Driven Life)

It is natural for the church to assume during unemployment they have lots of free time and therefore can help to coach the children on English to serve the church and community.  But in fact, this is a wrong assumption because with them going through identity crisis and depression, all energy for life has been drained, even a very small load on the Aspie, they do not feel motivated to do, although the load is light but it is like a straw that breaks the camel’s back.

Joshua Gordon Lee wrote in his book, during the worst time of his life he frequently drives an hour to the desert to move by hand big and heavy rocks from one place to another because moving rocks give him the feeling of sturdy, in control and solid that badly needs in the time of difficulties.  Because of their limited interest on most aspects of life, God has always used the career downtimes as a way to push them to expand oneself.

Reading “Seven Days of Faith” which details out how Christian can achieve spiritual growth through daily activities.  God want to mode us into the way He want it through our traumatic experience, daily activities.  In fact, we grow more in our traumatic experience than having an easy and happy life.
A better way to restore our identity during crisis is to express love.  God values and keep records of our good work to express love and this goes to eternity.  Simple things like decorating the church or our home such that others can feel more comfortable and can enjoy their lives better are loving others and serving God.  Our identity should be our effort in loving God and others and our thoughts.  Identity for a Christian is what and how to love.

Just like Moses and Joseph went through a lot of traumatic experience such that they both developed godly character of humble and meek in order to become a great leader without being arrogant.  The plan of God for their life is to become a leader the way God want them to be.  True spiritual maturity is measured by faith developed through true intimacy with God.  Enoch has not done much in serving the Lord in his life besides raising his own family but he walked closely with God for 300 hundred years.
You are the one who is to choose the meaning of career.  Career for me as it turns out to be opportunity to grow and refine my strategy to handle adversity.

The Purpose Driven Life:
"If you're going to be a servant, you must settle your identity in Christ.  Only secure people can serve.  Insecure people are always worrying about how they appear to others.  They fear exposue of their weaknesses and hide beneath layers of  protective pride and pretensions.  The more insecure you are, the more you will want people to serve you, and the more you will need their approval.

Henri Nouwen said, "In order to be of service to others we have to die to them; that is, we have to give up measuring our meaning and value with the yardstick of others.... thus we become free to be compassionate."  When you base your worth and identity on your relationship to Christ, you are freed from the expectations of others, and that allows you to really serve them best."

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金燈臺

In church, Aspies naturally serve as a lampstand of pure gold because one can see the darkest corner that other people cannot see because of their attention-to-detail autistic trait, can think out of box and uniqueness.  That is why Aspies can so easily see the bad behavior of relationship predators.  Some of the bad behavior of relationship predators were on the entrance of the church and inside the church with a big crowd but surprisingly none of the church go-ers can see what’s happening because the bad behaviours are out of the expectation of normal people.

金燈臺是什麼？金燈臺就是一個地方、一個地方上的召會，憑著父神的生命和性情，在基督的復活裏受捶打而成形，並被聖靈充滿浸潤而照耀。這就是每一個主所呼召的人，今天該活在其中的異象、該與眾聖徒在一裏彰顯出來的實際。
神聖的生命必須具體成形在我們人性的生活裏，成形的是我們的人性生活，但受捶打的乃是永遠的生命。受捶打的不是我們墮落的魂生命，我們的魂生命必須為主捨棄、喪失。當神聖的捶打臨到我們時，我們不該在魂生命裏來領受、忍受，如果我們是憑自己的魂生命接受捶打，我們所得著的不過就僅剩下「受苦」而已。我們該天天靠著十字架，看自己的魂生命如同已死，當神聖的捶打臨到我們時，我們該在永遠的生命裏來受捶打，這樣，捶打就不僅是受苦，更是帶來神聖生命的長成。
神的建造不同於巴比倫的建造。巴比倫乃是把我們的魂生命燒成磚，與其他的磚頭用灰泥作漆連結起來；但神聖的生命自始至終都是「一」，就如金燈臺是由「一塊精金」捶打出來的，捶打出許多分枝，但不是分開捶打後再結合，乃是從一塊精金捶打成形。我們在自己的魂生命裏都是分開的、獨立的個體，但我們蒙召進入永遠生命裏的時候，我們各人卻都是一個身體上的肢體，共享一個生命、共同有份同一個生命。從這個角度來說，基督今天仍在受苦，復活的基督仍在受苦、受逼迫。基督雖然從死裏復活了，但神聖建造的工作才剛剛開始，當祂在掃羅逼迫基督徒的路上向他顯現時，祂對掃羅說：「你為什麼逼迫我？」掃羅並不是直接逼迫在地上的拿撒勒人耶穌，而是在耶穌死而復活之後，逼迫那些有份於這永遠生命的人們，但在基督的感覺裏，這就是逼迫祂，祂雖不必再為贖罪的工作受苦，但祂仍然在為神聖建造、生命成形的工作受苦。

引用來源： 金燈臺 | 水深之處福音網站 http://www.luke54.org/view/25/2986.html#ixzz2OGrZmuVn 

From Kam Leung:

「凡事受了責備，就被光顯明出來，因為一切能顯明的就是光。」以弗所書5：13 保羅指出光的效能就是在所到之處，一切黑暗與污垢全都要顯露出來。正如對以弗所的信徒勉勵，生活樣式要展現像光明之子，光來到就是照耀全地。當聖靈在我們所思所行，甚至所講的事上都會如光的照明，正當與邪惡；真誠與虛假；公義與私慾；愛心與嫉妒，這一切都無從隱藏。我們就更當行事為人靠著那加給我力量的，凡事都能作。Amen！

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Stand up for Yourself during the Presence of Relationship Predators with Anti-Social Personality Disorder

Relationship Predators with anti-social personality disorder is a natural threat for women with Autism because predators always look for an easy target.  Predators will generally have a history of conduct disorder as a teenager and extremely keen on observation, which means they can easily spot out the ASD traits in a large group of people.

Predators usually target Aspies and try to take advantage of their low self-esteem, deep insecurities, 內弱 and weak in social support.   Anti-social predators will make use of peer pressure, misunderstanding, false rumors to put down their targets, so as to force their target to be submissive to their predators because of peer pressure or feeling intimidated by the threat created by the predators.

Therefore, it is important for Aspies to stay with a healthy and positive peer group and boldly stand up for themselves during this kind of situation.  If the predators spread false rumors about you and in order to threaten to ruin your reputation, you need to have faith in yourself that you've done nothing wrong to trigger the misunderstanding from your peer group, clarify with the trusted group members on appropriate situations and it is solely the predators' trick trying to threaten you.


From Kam Leung:

「懼怕人的，陷入網羅；惟有倚靠耶和華的必得安穩。」箴言29：25
"箴言書吸引之處在於比世人的格言還要有智慧。此經節所指，當一個人因怯懼人的威權恐嚇下，懾於那些仗著勢力欺壓他人，人亦只能墮進所設的網羅裏。當然景況是一種強勢壓制，但物極必反，那張力自然擴展伸延，惡者定必不安；但詩人的智慧就是倚靠上才是真正經歷安穩，裏面是滿有自由與平安。我們相信相信 神是智慧的啟迪，只有更安穩在祂的懷抱中得享甘甜。同路人，盡心的享受這大愛！"


Recognisable traits of predators:


強詞奪理、顛倒是非、企圖擾亂羣眾的視聽，嚴重違反弟兄姊妹之間的誠信, 令受害人身心受煎熬及事件對她有負面影響

「他口中的言語、起頭是愚昧．他話的末尾、是奸惡的狂妄。」傳道書 10 : 9

「義人的嘴、能令人喜悅．惡人的口、說乖謬的話。」Proverb 10

「鴕鳥的翅膀歡然搧展、豈是顯慈愛的翎毛和羽毛麼。因他把蛋留在地上、在塵土中、使得溫暖．卻想不到被腳踹碎、或被野獸踐踏。他忍心待雛、似乎不是自己的．雖然徒受勞苦、也不為雛懼怕．因為　神使他沒有智慧、也未將悟性賜給他。他幾時挺身展開翅膀、就嗤笑馬和騎馬的人。」約伯記 39 : 13-17


Despite that the target feels quite angry over the predators annoying her, the law gives us guideline on whether the evil predators deserve punishment or not.

The law for prosecuting the predators depends on their conditions:

Not guilty by reason of insanity.  (因精神錯亂而無罪)
When  an act is done by a feeble-minded person, the punishment may be reduced.  (減責神志失常)

(The purpose driven life)
"Jesus gave the church a simple three-step process: "If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him -- work it out between the two of you.  If he listens, you've made a friend.  If he won't listen, take one or two others along so that the presence of witnesses will keep things honest, and try again.  If he still won't listen, tell the church."

What should you do if the person is still stuck in stubbornness? Jesus says to take it to the church.  If the person still refuses to listen after that, you should treat that person like an unbeliever.

The bible gives pastors very specific instructions on how to deal with relationship predators.  Predators should be removed from church if they ignore two warnings."

Titus 3:2
Warn a divisive person once, and then warn him a second time. After that, have nothing to do with him.
You may be sure that such a man is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned.


提多書 3 :10-11
分門結黨的人、警戒過一兩次、就要棄絕他．因為知道這等人已經背道、犯了罪、自己明知不是、還是去作。

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Black and White Thinking, Rigidity in Mindset, Compulsion

Aspies tend to be thinking black and white which means once they set their mind on something, if things suddenly goes wrong, there is strong resistance to change.  Their mind can be so rigid and strong compulsion to stick to the original conclusion that makes them hard to response in time to a turn off signal from others either verbally or in the facial expression.

Verbal turnoff signal includes:

Negative response become very short and long pause.

Body language turnoff signal includes:

Lean back, look away

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Statistics

1  person  in 250 has Asperger/High-Functioning Autism.

17,500 people in Hong Kong

over 20,000 隱蔽青年 in Hong Kong

5 million people in China

Less than 1% of the Autism Spectrum (ASD aspies) are Christians in the world

Male to Female ratio is 2:1

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Locus of Control

Locus of control是心理學名詞，在1950年代由Julian Rotter所提出，在管理和教育領域也會用到。
指＂(對行為的)控制力所在／來源＂，分為內部和外部兩種。
內控 (Internal Locus of Control)，是相信應對自己的命運與前途負責。
外控 (External Locus of Control)，相信外在力量決定自己的命運。
Believing we were knock down by others and therefore wounded and stay as it is.  Knock down by others is other people’s fault.  But staying wounded without getting up ourselves and try to take care of the wound and get it healed is our own fault.

With external locus of control, we are giving the control of our life to Satan.  Some people said they just can't get up on their own.  That’s why we cannot be healed by God.  With internal locus of control, Holy Spirit is with us and within us and therefore God can take back the control if we let Him.  Jesus is in us.  When he gets up, he will pull us up with Him.  He can heal our wounds.  Hurts are dark power from Satan causing us to deter from God’s plan on our life.  It is God’s wish that we are healed such that we can become the tree of righteousness.

Stephen Covey

10% of life is made up of what happens to you.

90% of life is decided by how you react.

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SSRI for Anxiety

Temple recommends AS people to take 1/3 to 1/2 of a starter dosage (20mg for Prozac) of SSRI to reduce the social anxiety such that Aspies can free up the barrier to more easily pick up the social functioning skills.

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Observe Turnoff Signal from Facial Expressions

  In "The unwritten Rules of Social Relationships" by Temple Grandin:

“Being able to gauge when I'm turning someone off means being able to read their facial cues and body language to some extent. This was a skill I had to develop in myself; it wasn't automatic for me, nor is it for most people with ASD. It's an important source of information and situational clues, and is a teachable skill. Lots of good books and materials are on the market today that address this issue in a concrete and fun way.”

Some of the turnoff signals:

If you say something to a person, the person lean back and her response becomes short and with long pause.  You should stop right away whatever you're talking about and considering switching topics.  It's body signal for you to know that she is not interested in talking about the topic or she is offended by what you're saying.

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Survival Mechanism

Most people in the autism spectrum have obsessive and compulsive disorder which is a survival mechanism for the anxiety caused by the social deficits.  The obsessive interest acts as a thought blocker to block the negative thoughts that causes anxiety.  The compulsive disorder enforces rigidity and routine which reduces anxiety because uncertainty and risk produces anxiety.  Therefore, whenever the Aspie is under a stressful situation (e.g. chronic unemployment), the autistic traits becomes more severe.

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